ORAL COMMUNICATION
Conversation is so basic to human existence that any study of it inevitably leads to some of life’s most important rules—rules that lead to trouble if ignored. Consider the following list of
consequences of poor conversation skills. Ask yourself if any of these basic emotions and conditions is a persistent part of your social and business life:
Good conversation skills, on the other hand, lead to success, and success leads to more success. Good verbal abilities usually promote good relations with others, influence, respect, and a
reputation for leadership and effectiveness. People with these advantages go through life feeling the emotions and talents listed below.
We all feel the above emotions and conditions, good and bad, from time to time. But do you have the feeling that the negative factors occur too persistently in your life? Do you feel that some of these harmful conditions are crippling your family life and your social and career progress? Do you wonder how you can increase the good elements and decrease the bad?
Well, as stated above, most of life’s successes and problems are founded in the quality of your communication skills. Human beings are social animals. Our vast civilizations exist and function only because each of us has learned to control our behavior in very intricate ways. Still, some of us have a better grasp than others of the complex systems in which we live. Those who have the deepest awareness and understanding of the core rules are the ones who succeed and prosper. This is a book of rules, rules many people live and die without ever fully comprehending.
Society’s rules aren’t always obvious. The rules that allow us to get by and survive are fairly simple (don’t run red lights, don’t make bank robbery a career). But other rules, the ones that
confer real success, not mere survival, can sometimes be as difficult to detect as black holes in deep space.
When your career progress bogs down, when your relationships are weak or troubled, when you have a hard time making friends, when you have difficulty making yourself heard, and when people take advantage of you, it is because you have an imperfect comprehension of those shadowy rules that allow you to focus social power to your advantage.
No one in our world succeeds strictly on his or her own. True accomplishment requires that you efficiently influence those around you in positive ways. The primary tool of influence is communication, and like society itself, communication has rules that few fully understand.
Conversation is so basic to human existence that any study of it inevitably leads to some of life’s most important rules—rules that lead to trouble if ignored. Consider the following list of
consequences of poor conversation skills. Ask yourself if any of these basic emotions and conditions is a persistent part of your social and business life:
- Disrespect
- rejection
- frustration
- anger
- being misunderstood
- being misinterpreted
- depression
- giving offense
- being insulted
- disappointment
- Embarrassment
- exhaustion
- failure
- fear
- humiliation
- loneliness
- powerlessness
- weakness
- being overlooked
- impatience
Good conversation skills, on the other hand, lead to success, and success leads to more success. Good verbal abilities usually promote good relations with others, influence, respect, and a
reputation for leadership and effectiveness. People with these advantages go through life feeling the emotions and talents listed below.
- stimulated
- energized
- passionate
- motivated
- excited
- challenged
- determined
- flexible
- contributing
- effective
- comfortable
- confident
- resourceful
- empowered
- vital
- centered
- respected
- well-liked
- included
- focused
- fortunate
- rewarded
- in control
- satisfied
- lucky
We all feel the above emotions and conditions, good and bad, from time to time. But do you have the feeling that the negative factors occur too persistently in your life? Do you feel that some of these harmful conditions are crippling your family life and your social and career progress? Do you wonder how you can increase the good elements and decrease the bad?
Well, as stated above, most of life’s successes and problems are founded in the quality of your communication skills. Human beings are social animals. Our vast civilizations exist and function only because each of us has learned to control our behavior in very intricate ways. Still, some of us have a better grasp than others of the complex systems in which we live. Those who have the deepest awareness and understanding of the core rules are the ones who succeed and prosper. This is a book of rules, rules many people live and die without ever fully comprehending.
Society’s rules aren’t always obvious. The rules that allow us to get by and survive are fairly simple (don’t run red lights, don’t make bank robbery a career). But other rules, the ones that
confer real success, not mere survival, can sometimes be as difficult to detect as black holes in deep space.
When your career progress bogs down, when your relationships are weak or troubled, when you have a hard time making friends, when you have difficulty making yourself heard, and when people take advantage of you, it is because you have an imperfect comprehension of those shadowy rules that allow you to focus social power to your advantage.
No one in our world succeeds strictly on his or her own. True accomplishment requires that you efficiently influence those around you in positive ways. The primary tool of influence is communication, and like society itself, communication has rules that few fully understand.
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